Choose the right place for Mom or Dad, with confidence
Every question to ask on a tour, a fair way to compare places and their real monthly cost, and a calm plan for moving day. All in one fillable kit.
- 41 fillable pages, 9 sections
- Tour Worksheets for 4 places
- Cost comparison spreadsheet
- US Letter + A4, instant download
Type on any device or print it. Opens in Excel and Google Sheets.
Every place looks lovely on the tour
Brochures look the same, every guide is friendly, and the prices never seem to match. It is hard to see what daily life is really like, or what you will actually pay.
What do I even ask?
The Tour Worksheet gives you the questions on staffing, care, medicines, safety, daily life and the contract, ready to write in.
Why did the price go up?
Rent is only part of it. Line up care fees, medicine help, extras and yearly increases side by side.
How do we agree as a family?
A family meeting plan, a shared comparison and a clear decision page keep brothers and sisters on the same page.
Walk in with the right questions
Print a Tour Worksheet for each place, or fill it in on your phone as you walk around.
- First impressions to tick off: cleanliness, kind staff, residents who are busy, safety features
- Questions on staffing levels, nurses, training and how care is decided
- Medicines, emergencies, and when your parent would have to move out
- Extra pages for memory care and nursing homes, plus a mealtime second visit
See the real monthly cost, not the starting price
The Cost Comparison workbook opens in Excel or Google Sheets and does the math for you.
- Monthly totals for up to four places, with the lowest 3-year total highlighted
- A budget tab: your parent's income and savings, the monthly gap, and roughly how long savings would last
- Tour Scores: weight what matters most to your family and rank each place
Nine sections, from "Is it time?" to the first 30 days
Clickable contents and section tabs on every page, so you can jump straight to what you need.
Is It Time?
Warning signs, a daily-care needs check, and which of six levels of care fits.
Talking It Through
How to start the conversation, and a family meeting plan to share the jobs.
Paying for Care
A monthly budget, and plain facts on Medicare, Medicaid and VA Aid and Attendance.
Finding Places
Where to look, a search log, and phone questions that save wasted trips.
Touring
Tour Worksheets for four places, plus memory care and nursing home extras.
Comparing
Side-by-side scores, a cost comparison, and your decision page.
Contract & Admission
What to check before you sign, admission paperwork, and questions for an attorney.
Moving Day
A downsizing plan, a what-to-bring checklist and a moving-day plan.
Settling In
The first 30 days, care plan meetings, a concerns log and key contacts.
Watch: Questions to Ask When Touring Assisted Living
A walkthrough of the tour questions, using the pages in this kit. Press play to watch it here.
Payment and rights facts in the kit are checked against official sources:
Is this kit right for you?
Made for
- Adult children helping a parent choose assisted living, memory care or a nursing home
- Families sharing the research, tours and costs
- Anyone who wants to compare places fairly before signing
Good to know
- It is US-focused. Assisted living rules vary by state.
- It is a planning tool, not legal, financial or medical advice.
- It is a digital download. Nothing is shipped.
Questions
Can I fill it in on my phone or tablet?
Yes. Open the PDF in the free Adobe Acrobat Reader app on iPhone, iPad or Android, tap a box and type. On a computer, Adobe Acrobat Reader works best. You can also print any page.
Which size should I download?
Both are included. Choose US Letter in the USA and Canada, and A4 in most other countries.
Do I need Excel for the spreadsheet?
No. It opens in Excel or free Google Sheets (File, then Import, then Upload).
Does it cover memory care and nursing homes?
Yes. There are extra question pages for memory care and for nursing homes, including how to look up a nursing home's ratings and inspection results on Medicare Care Compare.
How do I get it after buying?
You can download it straight away from Gumroad: the kit in US Letter and A4, the Cost Comparison spreadsheet, and a Quick-Start Guide.
Make this big decision a little easier
Questions for every tour, a fair way to compare, and a plan for moving day, ready the moment you buy.
Get the Assisted Living Decision Kit $19